No matter how much we study for parenting, this is one of those life vocations that is the greatest challenge for all adults. However, parenting is not without its rewards. The secret to parenting is that you have to understand what parenting is and face the reality that this is not just a life phase. It is life everlasting. In this article, we discuss what it means to be a good parent.
Ups, downs and parental instincts
Parenting is composed of ups, downs and anything in between. There is simply no way to prepare any adult to cover all bases of parenting. This is a life style that is founded upon self-sacrifice. If you are an adult who dislikes sacrifice of any kind, choose another lifestyle. The extreme joy parents feel when their first child is born is one they remember all their lives. The ability to give life is awesome.
The truth about parenting is that is it also one of the most natural instincts humans have even when they cannot bear children of their own. The old ideas that parenting is mainly a maternal instinct felt by the females of the species is not accurate. As has been proven, males also have a natural protective instinct for those who are helpless. However, it is true that females are more likely to adapt to the need to make sacrifices as parents than males.
The components of being a good parent
Parents are teachers in ways they often ignore. Many parents make the mistake of verbalizing or making idle threats when children misbehave. One of the chief components of being a good parent is to always be aware of parental behavior to set a good example. Thus, parents must also be aware of how they communicate and the language they use as their child develops. From the moment a child speaks their first word, they have already memorized what they heard parents saying.
Children can imitate most anything. Most of all they like to imitate their parents. We know this to be “role models.” This is why the most important part of parenting is presenting a good example as role models for children.
What it means to be a good parent
The definition of a good parent is one who knows their own capabilities and can share them in productive ways with children. Children are born with a need to have structure in their lives they can depend and rely on. A good parent provides a sense of security and protection in ways their child relates to easily and produces a sense of security and self confidence.
Being a good parent means making correct choices for each individual child. Children cannot be mass parented as if they were part of an assembly line. Most of all, being a good parents means understanding you are no longer singular but as plural as the number of children you are parenting. If the idea of having too much responsibility is anathema to your personal nature, think twice about becoming a parent. The earliest parenting years are overwhelmingly overloaded with enormous responsibilities.
Always know your options. There is no “return policy” after children are born. Within each 24 hours there is much joy and satisfaction in knowing sacrifices you make for your children produces future adults who are responsible, productive human beings who are also talented, educated and skilled.
Proactive and reactive good parents
Children need to know their parents will be there for them in times of need and ready to provide answers. They also need parents who react quickly to their achievements and also their failures in ways that do not stifle future development or create unnecessary inhibitions and fears.
Weighing your priorities to be a good parent
By the time you become a parent you have amassed sufficient maturity and possess the ability to prioritize what is important and what is insignificant in child development. This ability is one that will serve you well for the long term. Parenting can be described as the most serious business with such a highly beneficial return on investment. You invest yourself, your time and your knowledge and the return on that investment is a happy, secure, confident child. If you are good at balancing your time and your priorities, you will know what it means to be a good parent. You also realize your parenting skills are not unlike that of a magician.
Love is a many splendored parental thing
If there is one ingredient that provides the greatest rewards of being a parent, it is love shared between parent and child. At no other time in your life will you ever have the experience of seeing yourself in your child’s eyes and feel the depth of how loved and admired you are. Being a good parent means knowing how to love and be loved, how to discipline when it is needed most, how to be fair and impartial and be the finest good example you can be.