Children impact our lives in a big way. When you become a parent, you have another person to take care of. With that comes big sacrifices. Have you thought about being a stay-at-home mom so you could take better care of your child?
Don’t be surprised. Many moms have thought of that too. Here are are a few tips to help you decide if being a stay-at-home mom is for you.
1. Have a Concrete Reason for Leaving
Every decision you make in life should have a reason. Otherwise, what’s the point? Answer this simple question before you quit your job, why do you want to be a stay-at-home mother? You can say you want to spend more time with your kids, but is that the only reason.
Some companies will allow you to work remotely or bring your kids to work. These firms even have a play area for kids. If you want to spend more time with your kids, why don’t you look for a job in another company with friendlier family policies?
Be honest with yourself. The main reason for quitting is you want a break from everything. When you know the reasons, you’ll be at peace with your decision.
2. Practice Financial Discipline
The most important rule of transitioning is financial discipline. Since you’re going to be out of the job for a while, you may have to let go of some old shopping habits. For example, no more takeaways and weekly splurges.
Even if your partner has a good job, you should have financial discipline. Remember, you have a future to plan for your little ones.
3. Respect and Acknowledge Your New Job
There’s always that fear of what will happen after you quit. Was all the struggle to get to where you are for nothing? What about your professional skills? Will they go to waste? Being a stay-at-home mom is a job like any other.
You’ll still wake up early to prepare your kids for school. Organize the household and be there for your kids and partner. As a stay-at-home mom, you’re in charge of a different system. The house will be in chaos if you’re not there to bring order and provide everyone with everything they need.
Becoming a stay-at-home mom is the next step in your professional career. You’ll learn empathy, the value of patience, and improve your interpersonal skills. Therefore, be proud because you’re improving instead of losing your professional identity.
4. Make Time for Yourself
Being a stay-at-home mom can be exhausting. If your kids haven’t started school, they’ll demand your attention all the time. Yes, they may even follow you to the toilet.
If you want to remain sane and make the transition less stressful, create some time for yourself every day. For example, if you’ve been with the kids all day, leave them with your spouse when he gets home from work. Then, go for a stroll. Being alone helps you breathe and clear your mind.
5. Organize Yourself
A stay-at-home mom sets her schedule and does things her way. Some things have a fixed time frame while others don’t. For example, you have to wake up before your kids every weekday, prepare breakfast, and get them ready for school. At night, you have to tuck them in after they’ve had their dinner. On the other hand, you can wash the dishes anytime.
Since some things are not pre-planned, you may feel like you have a lot of free time. But that’s not the case. You don’t have a boss to answer to so you don’t feel any pressure at home. Believe it or not, you actually do a lot without knowing.
If you don’t believe me, take a pen and paper and write down everything you did. You’ll discover that you did a lot. Create a schedule to help deal with the ‘free time’ issue. It will help you cope better, especially if you’re used to working with a pre-set schedule.
6. Be Ready for the Unexpected
Kids can be very unpredictable. One minute you’re preparing a bath for them, and the next they’re gone. Now, you have to chase them around the house and convince them to take a shower. If you want to be successful as a stay-at-home mom, don’t have a rigid mindset.
Even if you’ve created a schedule, be ready to accept that everything won’t always go your way. Accepting reality makes coping easy.
7. Find New Peers
Being a career woman gives you the freedom to talk with colleagues and go on a night out with the girls. You have the support of your peers. Unfortunately, you may not be able to do the same things when you become a stay-at-home mom. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t be social.
Get to know your neighbors, especially the ones that are stay-at-home parents. You could also join online mom groups to meet other mommies. These people could be your support system. You can share experiences and receive tips on caring for children.
Becoming a stay-at-home mom is a major decision. You’ll be around your kids a lot. Your work will be to teach them their first lessons. You have the opportunity to give them the best foundation in life.
Making the transition isn’t easy for everyone. Some people will say you’re making a big mistake, but ultimately, it’s your decision. Don’t let the opinions of others affect you.