Parental burnout is a real thing. Even though you love your kids more than anything in the world, parenting is one of the hardest things in that world. It’s important you stay on top of this issue or you’ll burnout. We’ve got a few ways to save your physical and mental well being as a parent.
Practice self care
Many times parents say they have no time to take care of themselves. They’re too busy being the taxi driver for the kids, cooking dinner, working, attending meetings about their kids, and going to sporting events. If you don’t take time for yourself, you lose yourself. Your mental capacity can only take so much. The human body is like a battery. Once it gets low mentally and physically, you’re running low. You don’t want to hit empty, and not be able to be the best parent you can be to your kids.
Don’t worry so much about outcomes
Perception matters in parenting. If you’re worried all of the time about your child’s success, you’ll start to focus on the wrong things. You’ll try to control your child and the outcome of whatever they’re doing. You can’t control it. Find connections with your child that don’t involve outcomes. Talk to them, listen to them. You don’t have to fix any outcome during this. You can just listen to their thoughts. It’s important to just sit with them and dream together.
Delegate some responsibilities
As those around you to step in and help if you’re feeling the burn. If you have a partner, communicate your feelings with them. Ask them to do some things for you and the kids. Even if it’s just for a few hours a week, delegate some things to others. You’ll feel a weight lifted to get away from the insanity of parenting for just a few hours. You don’t have to get a lot done in this time. You could just take a nap and recharge your batteries.
Focus on the positive
It can be difficult not to get bogged down in the insanity of parenting. Everyone tells you that you should be happy you have kids and that times goes by too fast. Sometimes you forget these things. Sometimes you just want to get through the moment. Focus on the positive aspects of your life. Focus on the excitement of your kids and what they bring to your life. Even when life seems out of control, remember your children are special. It’s normal to experience burnout, but thinking of the positive aspects of parenthood will bring you a sense of calm.
Break down your time
Many parents are under a lot of pressure to get their children to all of their classes, events and programs. They put that pressure on the kids as well. You need to step back and figure out your time. Are you driving too much? Are you ever spending time together as a family? Is anyone in your family enjoying this time at all? Break down how you spend your time. If your schedule is too demanding, cut some things out. Your child doesn’t have to be involved in 10 things. Get them involved with the decision making. Let them tell you the things they love, and the things they don’t care about.
Take a break
Taking a break doesn’t mean you leave your little kids at home all alone, or that you lock yourself in a room away from everyone for days. Taking a break means getting away for yourself. Plan a little vacation just so you can have some “you”-time. Even if you can only get away for a few hours just to have some fun or to relax, take that time for yourself. You’ll probably miss the chaos of your life during your vacation. You don’t have to be on fire 24/7. You deserve a break.
Parental burnout is normal. Don’t think you’re failing as a parent because you need a break every now and then. Don’t lose yourself in this amazing thing called parenthood. Take action to take care of yourself before you experience parental burnout.