Unfortunately, there are no instructions on how to deal with newborn babies. Yet every person you meet will have advice for you. However, it can be difficult to remember all the useful tips, so here are some basic tips that are essential for every new parent!
For new parents who have no idea what they are doing…You’re doing great!
Parenthood isn’t about guilt and it’s fine to feel like you’re going into it blindly. The whole parenting thing is probably a lot harder to ruin than you think. Do what you and your baby feel good about? Because that’s all that matters in the end.
There are several ways you can be a good parent
Despite what is often thought, we all do our best. That means sometimes you make a mistake. And also that it’s not always fun. Stop comparing your baby, yourself and your Instagram photos to others. Every child is different, so try not to pay too much attention to children you see passing by on social media. Concentrate on your own child, because he or she is probably quite special too.
Everything is a phase
The problems will come and go, as a parent you can’t get out of it. Sometimes you’ll just have to persevere and survive the phase. However, this is a lot easier when you consider how temporary everything is. Waking up seven times at night is temporary, feeding from jars is temporary, a vocabulary consisting only of the word ‘no’ is temporary. The crazy thing is that one day you might even miss it.
It is also advisable to leave behind negative ideas about certain phases, such as toddler adolescence. Instead, try to concentrate on the fun things this age brings with it.
For the new parents who can handle anything…You can ask for help!
It can be difficult to accept help, but this is a phase of life in which you could really use some help. No one will think less of you if you accept some help here and there. The more people you have around you who love your baby, the better.
Of course, it can be frustrating when people want to come and ‘help’ and only want to hold the baby. Let people know how they can really help you, for example by running errands for you or making you a cup of tea.
Get to know each other
You often hear about the magical bond that is created once your baby is born, but does that also mean that you really know each other? It can take a while before you understand each other, and that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t mean you lack certain maternal instincts. In no time at all, you’ll know exactly which cry “Change my diaper!” means when your baby’s hungry.
This also applies to breastfeeding. It can take a while to find a way that makes you feel good. Talk to other mothers or ask an expert for help. And if you decide to stop breastfeeding, it’s not the end of the world either.
Don’t forget to take good care of yourself
Hire a cleaner, order a takeaway, claim time for a nap or bath, check out your favourite Netflix series or go shopping online. Being a good parent doesn’t mean you’ll just get caught up in your parental duties and forget who you were before. The happier you are, the happier your baby is.