We understand that sometimes it’s difficult. You are in the supermarket to do an errand and just at that moment your toddler finds it necessary to lie down on the ground crying and screaming. Suddenly all eyes are on you and your child and shame strikes! But even though these tantrums are very annoying for you, they are good for your toddler. They also serve a function! Here are 10 reasons why tantrums are important to your toddler:
1. An outlet
The tantrums act as stress dischargers in toddlers. Tears contain the stress hormone ‘cortisol’. So by crying, the stress literally leaves their bodies. It also causes a reduction in blood pressure. So it’s very healthy for your toddler to have a tantrum once in a while and rage out for a while, after which he will be his cheerful self again!
2. Helps with learning
According to experts, it is important to be relaxed and comfortable when trying to learn new things. This also applies to toddlers. That’s why a tantrum is good for the learning process. It relaxes your child, allowing him to continue learning with fresh courage after his tantrum.
3. It improves sleep
If your child doesn’t get a chance to throw out all his emotions during the day, chances are that these negative emotions will accumulate. These can then come out at night in the form of nightmares that disrupt your child’s sleep. That is why it is important to give them room during the day to vent their emotions. Don’t prevent them from crying over (in your opinion) unreasonable things! This will improve their sleep.
4. Learning to deal with a “No
If you refuse something to a child, chances are that it sometimes turns into a tantrum. But this is ok! It’s how he learns what’s acceptable and what’s not. So don’t try to avoid the tantrum. After all, parenting is also a form of showing love and raising your child to be the best person they can be.
5. It creates trust
Does it ever occur to you that your toddler only has those terrible tantrums around you? Not because he hates you, but because he trusts you. Because you continue to love your child unconditionally, even when he has a tantrum, you create trust. He can let everything out and be himself with you. Isn’t that the biggest compliment, you as a parent can get?
6. It is good for the bond
As has been said before, it may seem as if your child hates you during his tantrums. But nothing could be further from the truth! By giving him room to express his feelings in the form of a tantrum, you actually strengthen the bond. Say some sweet and reassuring words to him and give him a hug when you get the chance. This will show him that you are always there for him when he needs comfort.
7. Has a positive influence on behaviour
Problem behaviour in toddlers (hitting, refusing to share or participate in something) is often caused by struggling with his emotions. By having a tantrum once in a while, he discharges these emotions and can play happily with you or his friends again!
8. Preferably at home
Everyone knows the picture: a screaming toddler in the supermarket, train, clothes shop, etc. Very annoying for many parents. That’s why it’s important that your child gets the chance to express his frustrations at home. This reduces the chance that he will do this in public. In addition, your child will have more time and rest to get out and get rid of all the stress and emotions.
9. Give your toddler his tantrum while it’s still allowed
As children get older, they will have less and less tantrums. This violent display of emotions becomes more and more discouraged. Too bad actually, because it is so healthy for you! Therefore, give your child this easy release of emotions for as long as it is still allowed.
10. Drifting as a mirror
It’s not just your toddler who’s bathed in a tantrum. You too can learn something from the tantrum of your kids. It can work like a mirror. You suddenly remember things from your own childhood, such as parents who didn’t pay attention to your emotions. Now you have a chance to do things differently with your child! In addition, your child’s tantrums are a good exercise to train your patience and control.
In short: tantrums are very important for your toddler as well as for you! Therefore, do not prevent them from having tantrums and accept that this is a part of having a toddler in your home.